"I Love You?"

Earlier today I received an email and the sender said, “I love you.”

Now, who doesn’t like that? More on that in a moment.

For those of us in the USA it’s Thanksgiving, a day of gratitude. For others, I hope it’s also a day of gratitude for you.

At some time, either long ago or recently, you registered to be on my list. For that I am very grateful to you for doing so, and I thank you again for your interest and your trust and staying with me.

If you’ve been with me for awhile you know that my punctuation often suffers, but my goals are clear.

I will provide you with a combination of self-help, personal empowerment tools, business possibilities and information to assist you to lead more fulfilling lives, even if in some very small way.

Some things I send may have no immediate interest to you, but as one reader said, “the next thing could be a knock out.”

I believe that all people are living in one of three levels in life. Anyone can regress or advance at any time. My goal is to assist us all towards number 3 and to stay there!

1. Existence
2. Survival
3. Thriving

None of these three necessarily have to do with material or financial goods. I know people who make a lot of money but are in an “existence” mode. They are like automatons. They crank out their jobs mechanically, do what is required or more, depending on their “settings.” They are usually anhedonic, unable to feel joy, even though they may live in opulence.

Survivors are just getting by. Whether with finances, love, or relationships. But they can feel and exhibit joy and hope and love. Some are aiming at thriving, while others, complain about their circumstances. The latter are may be on automatic. They take little or no action to improve their lot,  they just automatically continue to survive, doing the bare minimum.

The thrivers are just incredible. They are filled with hope, gratitude, forward looking attitudes while always looking to learn more. The poorest financially are still optimistic and seeking improvement in every area they want to thrive in. Their happiness is not conditional. But they are seldom satisfied with any kind of status quo, except happiness.

Some survivors and all thrivers are “activators,” (see “Please Activate Now:”  )

Now about that “I love you” message.

A marketer for whom I have great respect sent that to his list today, not to me personally. He knows who I am, but loves me? Hmmm.

Two words that are dear to me, friend and love. Those are serious words.

I don’t want to go off on a (another) tangent, but briefly, I do think you can love humanity as a concept, but individuals are completely unique situations.

Some of us, though we’ve never met, have had enough interaction where there is that feeling of friendship. In those cases, I have little doubt that would change if we were face to face.

But friend is a treasured word and relationship. Unlike politicians and other manipulators of human emotions, it’s not a word I am likely to use loosely.

So, again. I am grateful to you for joining with me. I hope I can provide help and inspiration along the way and pass along what I’m learning from others too.

Feel free to comment and correspond. I read all of my personal emails and respond to each one . . . eventually. Customer service, of course, is handled immediately.

Happy gratitude day, wherever you are and whatever day you read this.

More power to you,

Tom

Comments

[Susan Winlaw]

Thanks Tom for another great article. I believe that attitude is so very important in how you move yourself from Survival to Thriving. My true essence is mostly in the thriving place and I know the financial side will one day make it back there from bare survival. When I look at all that I have accomplished in these past 3 years I am amazed. I try every day to move through it with an attitude of gratitude and I know that the money will find me.
Keep up the great work and I hope you enjoy your wonderful day of Thanksgiving down there. We had ours up in Canada about 6.5 weeks ago and it was wonderful.
I send joy your way and to all of your followers, I wish the same.
Be safe on the road as you make your way to family and friends.
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